In the church we generally expect people to be loving, accepting, forgiving and passive. We seldom expect people to rebuke or correct us, so when they do we often times get offended and defensive.
We think to ourselves, “Who are you to tell me what to do? You are not God! Don’t judge me. You didn’t die for my sins!” But the truth, it could be the one who DID die for your sins who is speaking through that person.
2 Timothy 3:16 says all scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness. What this tells us is that when believers are filled with the word of God he will use them to correct his children’s sinful actions. This correction may downright hurt because it exposes our faults and convicts us. But it’s not meant to destroy. On the contrary, it’s meant to lead us to repentance so that we can live righteous blameless lives before God.
Correction and rebuke is actually helping us. Remember when Peter spoke against Jesus saying “Never Lord! This (death and resurrection) shall never happen to you!” Jesus rebuked him commanded the devil in him to get behind (Matthew 16:23). His rebuke did not destroy Peter. It let Peter know that he was out of line and it actually humbled him. Later Jesus took him to a high mountain and showed him his Glory in transfiguration (Matthew 17:1-2). We see here that righteous correction doesn’t destroy relationships it actually strengthens them. On the contrary, Judas Iscariot took offense toward Jesus, in Matthew 26, after being corrected and it led to his betrayal and to Jesus’ death. A small seed of offense can lead to a big harvest of destruction. That’s why we must guard our hearts from it.
SO WHAT AM I SAYING!!!??
We have to get to a point where we can receive correction without being offended. WHY!? Because if we don’t we miss out on growth, progress, and elevation. Paul was transformed and elevated because of his humility and repentance after he encountered Jesus. Psalms 94:12 says Blessed is the man whom You chasten, O LORD, And whom You teach out of Your law. The Bible calls the one who is rebuked by the Lord BLESSED! Think about Job. After God reproofed him and he repented, God blessed him with 2x more than he had before and he was honored in his land. Proverbs 13:18 says Whoever disregards discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored. Although correction is uncomfortable we have to understand that its purpose is to make is greater.
Heavenly Father, please forgive me for harboring offense in my heart. Lord, teach me to receive correction with humility and peace. Change my heart towards those who have offended me in the past and help me to forgive those who may offend me in the future. Thank you for your mercy and grace. In Jesus Holy Name I pray, AMEN!